Grief or Loss

Loss enters our lives in a range of different ways.  

Sometimes unexpectedly and sometimes we are prepared, but it does not make it any easier.

Whilst we connect loss with losing a loved one through death, loss means different things to different people. It can be the result of:

• A relationship break-up

• The loss of a loved one

• Loss of a job

Our feelings as a result of loss create physical and emotional changes in both our minds and bodies.   For those of us who find it hard to connect with our emotions, we can also feel stuck in our grief. In these circumstances, it is commonplace to withdraw from your normal routines and to return to a safe space to make sense of the loss. It is important to connect with our grief as well as the people we love and trust. Some people find this really hard and instead avoid their feelings Whilst withdrawal from normal life is normal when we experience loss, if left alone for too long, it can lead to depression.

Sometimes the shock of the loss like sudden death can be traumatising where space and time is needed to recover.

In my work I meet with people who, for lots of reasons have not been able to connect with their loss or grief. This then forms an important part of our work in the Counselling room. For example, some people have not learned how to be vulnerable, and this gives us an opportunity to understand their past and to help them be more considerate of the self in the future.